Thursday, May 20, 2021

Don't Let Them Take the Wine

Many people still treat Romeo and Juliet as some kind of romantic ideal. 

The only way to do this successfully is to ignore the vast majority of what happens in the play. 

The main characters' deaths are tragic, in part because they are two casualties of an ongoing raging conflict between two families. This conflict ropes in and destroys several other lives as well. Their feud does a lot of damage, whether directly intended or incidental.

Throughout the play, these two families have a way of sucking all the air out of the room; of making every situation about their own desires and their hatred of one another. And others pay for it.

I've had people in my life over the years who had an uncanny ability to center themselves in every situation, to draw all the energy in the room toward themselves. Whatever joy existed elsewhere prior to their entry, they would redirect it toward their own wants, often muting it in the process.

Maybe you have people like this in your own life. Maybe some of these relationships have abusive elements. Most, if not all of them, could be called toxic.

Whatever needs to be done, take your energy and your joy back. Ask others for help to get out if you need it.

Don't let them take the wine.